Women strengths are kindness and compassion

Diana-Maria Georgescu & Dalai Lama

Being a successful woman in a world of men, it’s not easy at all. To survive and to be noticed, women tend to become men by losing their true nature. They often understand they need to adapt their behavior to the one men are used to answer too, especially in professional environments. Despite the continuous effort of transformation, men are not treating women in professional environments as their equals. Two months back we all have witnessed the declaration of the Polish Member of the European Parliament Janusz Korwin-Mikke that “women must earn less because they are weaker, they are smaller, they are less intelligent. They must earn less. That is all.” He got suspended for his attitude, but his behavior is a spoken prove of how some men are seeing women, even if they are not saying it loudly.

So, the main question is “how women can position themselves in this world full of prejudice about their skills and capabilities?”.

In October 2016, I went to a two days’ event held by Dalai Lama in Milan. He has also spoken about the difference between women and men. And I remember he said that if we look back in history, we can easily see the work done by men: two world wars and so many other genocides at national or international level that are still happening. All these sad moments are based on huge egos that men manifest more natural than women. A month back, Dalai Lama published this post on his official Facebook page: “Peace is not brought about through conflict, but through compassion—creating peace of mind within ourselves. We all need compassion and women can take a lead role in encouraging others to let it flower within them. My own first teacher of kindness and compassion was my mother.”

So, women’s true nature is kindness and compassion and we should not try to change it. To be leaders in our area of life and career, we should not put all our efforts to learn to behave like a man. We should just try to be natural and take the lead towards a new world, based on authenticity. The key, is not a battle between men and women, is not for sure a competition or a classification based on gender (who’s weak and who’s strong?).

The key is to educate ourselves to mix both strengths and to eliminate the prejudice on women.
But how can we do this?
Well, I think we can achieve this by taking some time to deeply understand, internalize and act upon the following aspects:

  1. Women and men are both human beings with the same potential of doing anything they want with their lives, whether they are using it or not.
  2. Women and men are complementary. Love relationships are proving it, so why not professional relationship can follow the same model?
  3. Both, men and women have been given the “free will”, so both can choose to be good or bad in life, to make peace or war, to be kind or rude, to be balanced or extreme.

So, if we deeply understand these three things, and decide to guide our next steps based on them, we can for sure change the perception of women and men in professional environments. The choice is only in our hands!

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How to become free in a world full of constraints

In a world full of constraints, we all deserve to be free! This is not a dream, it’s a right we have since our first breath on this planet. The tricky thing is that since day one, the world we are stepping into, welcomes us with a huge list of rules. The majority of people gets vaccinated in maternity, then we are all raised by our parents based on an infinity of rules about the food we are eating, the culture we are living in, the religion they have and other millions of rules, but they are never raising us based on spontaneity.

Have you ever stopped for a second and counted the rules you are respecting on your way out of the building you are living in, for instance? Once you decide to go out, you may start checking if the windows are closed, if the light, or the gas, or the water, or anything else that can put in real danger your house while you are out are turned off. And in the end, make sure you have locked the door, as well. Now, you are outside your house. So, here you may have some rules respecting other people well-being, like keeping a low level of noise between certain hours. And if your baby starts crying or your dog that has just seen a fly starts barking, you are in deep trouble as one of the sleepy neighbors just woke up and started sending you to hell because you are not able to educate your child or your dog. And here you go! Your day just turns out to be miserable because of so many constraints, so many limits, so many rules that are suffocating you. There is no escape, there is no break to take, there is no bad dream, it’s just the reality you are forced to live in even if it drives you crazy.

Now, stop for a second and think. Is this the life you have been born for? Is this the life you deserve? Is this the way you choose to go ahead?

No, it’s not, and you know it. “But it’s not my fault!”, you might be tempted to say. You cannot control others, you cannot control your child’s reactions, you cannot control your dog, you cannot control the thieves that can break into your house, you cannot control anything that’s outside yourself. 

But you can control Yourself! Freedom, is not something material or something you may achieve from someone external. Freedom is a state of mind! Educating your mind to become free in a world full of constraints, will get you closer to the freedom you are dreaming of. Start with the following 3 steps and see how you feel.

  1. Choose right now something that is really important for you and find an alternative to all the constraints that are blocking you to achieve it. Choose your way, but never hurt others intentionally while you are walking your own path. Keeping a compassionate way of treating others can fortunately make them understand they are seeing a problem only from their angle. And some of them can stop or just change perspective. This way you can set an example that others may follow and start becoming as free as you are.
  2. Set your mind to work for your purpose. If you want to be free, educate your mind to think free. Don’t get stuck in a negative vibe, even if an earthquake just collapses an entire building over you. If you are still breathing, focus on the rhythm of your breath and look for a way out if you want to survive.
  3. Feed your mind with positive thoughts even if you don’t see a way out. The positive energy transforms things faster than you may think.

Try all these 3 steps and see the difference. And if you cannot do it by yourself, ask for help. That’s a bonus step you receive today for reading the entire article!

Succesul începe cu primul pas

Pare un clişeu şi de cele mai multe ori trecem peste această frază mult prea repede. Însă dincolo de cuvinte, stă un adevăr. Iar acest adevăr are două feţe: succesul şi eşecul. Un prim pas într-o direcţie este predispus în egală măsură la ambele variante. Dar dacă nu îl faci, cum te poziţionezi? De partea succesului de a nu fi încercat pentru a evita să devii ridicol sau criticat sau… sau… sau… Ori în zona eşecului de a nu fi avut totuşi curajul să încerci?

Sâmbătă 4 martie 2017, am ales să fac un prim pas într-o nouă direcţie şi am organizat primul workshop public gratuit pe tema “Cum să devii liber într-o lume a constrângerilor”. Cu o zi înainte, aveam 3 persoane înscrise. Sâmbătă dimineaţă a mai renunţat cineva aşa că am rămas cu două persoane şi doar două întrebări care alternau: să ţin acest workshop sau să nu-l ţin?

Şi atunci mi-am amintit că orice lucru nou, orice acţiune, orice comportament nou în viaţa fiecăuia, începe cu un prim pas şi am decis să mă concentrez să transform acel pas într-un succes şi asta am făcut. Mi-am mutat tot entuziasmul pe cele două persoane şi pe decizia lor de a face ceva nou prin participarea la acest workshop şi de acolo totul s-a aranjat perfect.

După trei ore de discuţii, am sumarizat împreună că nevoia de a aparţine unei comunităţi care să îţi semene prin modul de gândire, care să te sprijine când contextul în care trăieşti se strânge în jurul tău condiţionându-ţi orice mişcare, este reală. De aceea, ne-am propus să mergem mai departe cu ideea acestei comunităţi pe care să o construim pas cu pas, pe măsură ce vor apărea şi alte persoane care îşi doresc să experimenteze un astfel de mediu. Sâmbăta trecută am gravitat în jurul relaţiilor de tot felul, de la relaţiile cu vecinii, la cele de muncă, cu şeful sau cu familia. A mers bine şi participanţii au avut ocazia să vadă că orice subiect poate fi abordat din diferite perspective, unele poate mai puţin convenţionale. Ne-am amuzat discutând despre mascota acestui prim eveniment care a fost “Găina cu 4 picioare” şi mai mult decât atât, am identificat astfel de “găini” şi în propriile vieţi. Pe scurt, ne-am simţit bine şi ne-am bucurat de diversitatea care ne uneşte şi ne apropie din ce în ce mai mult.

Nimic din cele de mai sus, nu s-ar fi întâmplat fără asumarea primului pas. Deşi prin numărul de participaţi unora dintre voi le poate părea un eşec, eu l-am simţit un succes puternic care mi-a întârit credinţa că alegerea succesului este doar a mea. De aceea, vă invit peste două săptămâni, pe data de 18 martie, să continuăm discuţia despre Relaţiile interumane. Care dintre ele? Vom decide împreună atunci.

Pentru acest eveniment, vă propun următorul motto: “Lupul face ouă. Din ouă ies pui. Puii se hrănesc cu lapte.” Cum îl veţi înţelege este alegerea voastră. Noi însă vă aşteptăm să vă alăturaţi unui grup de oameni care ştiu că pentru a mai elimina nişte limite în gândire, avem nevoie de o continuă educare într-un spirit care să ne reprezinte.

Planificarea evenimentului va fi publicată în scurt timp.